here is something I learned from a book called:
"the power of possitive thinking" By. Norman Vincient Peal


There was this young good looking heathy young man
Who could not figure out why so many people disliked him
He was smart....well off fiantially....and even gave $ to a good couse now and then

He lived in a pent house in the city
Everyday he would board the elevator to go to work
The attendant of the elevator was always nice to all the other people
But to the young man there was a very uncomfortable coldness between them
the only time they spoke ..there was always just a growling mumering forced good morning

This young man came to Normans Church and told him about his problem of getting people to like him..............
"I do my best" he explained
Norman realized that the young man possed in his speech a critical and un-happy attitude towwards others
He seemed to think he was a superior man
He was very rigid with no flexability of personality
"Is there some way I can stop un-cosciouly rubbing people the wrong way"the young man asked Norman
"You are self centered and Egotistical" The person you really like is yourself" Norman replied
"You are trying to make everybody over to suit yourself"..." you are judgemental"
uncosiouly people realize this...though sometimes they cannot put there finger on it right away
Barriers are erected in thier minds against you
Since you are being unplessant to people in your thoughts...it carry through to the way you treat them in your actions
Sure you are polite enough...but it is the vibe that you have...a bad vibe
Your intentions are good..but they are afraid

one meathod we suggest to him was this:
at night when you go to bed...make a list of all the people you met that day...learn their names
Pray for all the little people places and things that surround your little world

The next morning he made the effort to start a conversation with the elevator attendant
He asked him about his family and about his interests
He found that he actually had some intesteing views...and was quite funny
they talked more and more each day....
He begain to see the elevator man as more than the mechanical robot he has seen before
who's only purpose in life was to run the elevator up and down all day
He started trying to see all the good things about thuis man he could think of
and pushing away the negative thoughts
he even made a list
1. this man works hard for his famil
2. he is funny
3. he always know when it's ganna rain an is i will need an umbrella
4. who knows what this man has been though....
5. who knows what i could learn from an older man
6. He is a veteran...I owe my freedom to brave men like him
7. He dosn't have to be nice to all the people in this elevator..but goes the extra mile
8.He is well liked9.
9.I should give him a tip tommarrow...i think I will...that would make me feel better too..
10. I should write a good comment about him to the hotel mng.

He was eventually invited over to his house to join his familly for dinner
and today they are best friends....And today the young man is well liked
He aplied these rules at work...and he climed the latter...and got a promation
he appied the rules to his family.....and he has a loving relationship with them..and they oftern even come to him for advice